OOOO yes the customization aspect of Our life was def amazing! As a self-inserter myself, I played it a couple of times, and felt my heart flutter from a lot of the romance moments.
I personally value otome game's ability to allow to completely immerse in its world. So voice acting, plot, world building are really important to me. Plus I prefer to play on console (switch), so I mostly gravitate towards Japanese otome games. Playing different Japanese otome games makes me feel like I can immerse in various settings and worlds!