Yeah, it is how married life works for most people - because most people marry for convenience and lose their feelings for their partner rather soon even if they have had them initially. There is no love or strong emotional attachment here, no romance, just a person who lives together with you and, sometimes, you two have sex because you are too beta to fuck someone else and restricted by society. There is no passion. You aren't losing your lover, you are losing money and someone convenient to be around. It is a completely different type of attachment than having a strong crush on someone. NTR isn't about losing money or paying custody, lol. Also, you are a little bit wrong about the consequences. After being divorced most men start to enjoy life anew because they aren't restricted by family anymore. They also can find someone better - younger, hotter. On the other hand, a girlfriend is usually the best partner you can currently get. And only in teenage ages, you can experience truly strong passionate love, at least in the vast majority of cases. The older you get the less emotional you are and more logical. This is why the vast majority of popular romance visual novels are about schoolgirls, just check the top of vndb, all games from Key like this. I guess for some people netorare isn't about strong romance that then broken by ntr, but more like cuckold/netorase fetish. For me truly strong ntr is the reversal of the romance genre - you develop a strong attachment to the heroine, but instead of drama, she is then stolen by another guy and then sexually corrupted. It is the case for the classic ntr-games like Gatenkei, Triangle Blue, Venus games (even the wife ones), etc. IDK, maybe you are just older dude who thinks that it is immoral and wrong to be attracted to younger girls, there a lot of people like this.
