One isn't better than the other, imo. They're good at different things. Hell, even subcategories of the genres are different.
Since this is a games forum....
BL games tend to be made by sickos for sickos. Which means they tend to be more auteur, and deals with darker themes that go hard. I would not say that BL deals with feelings less than otome games (there is certainly a portion that focuses on smut, but so does smutty otome tbh) but the feelings they deal with tend to be pretty different and less soft, imo.
Otome games are more general audience, and I think in general they tend to be gentler on the audience and less heavy handed with their darkness (exceptions exist, especially lately heehee). The romances are more affirming, and I think the growth of the protagonist tends to be more positive. Also, JP otome especially tends to avoid graphic violent content that BL games often revel in, even if the subject matter is dark.
I like both for different moods. Love stories are great in all forms!