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not a good comparison, because bl is inherently joseimuke
How do you feel about a guy playing otome?
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In fact, as long as it's a game, it's open for everyone to play. Classifications are just there to help players choose games that suit their tastes, not for the games to filter the players. It's completely normal for men to play otome games or for women to play galgames. However, I personally boycott those male streamers who use playing otome games as a gimmick to attract fans, but in reality, look down on women and have zero moral standards.
- Apr 25, 2024
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I don't think it's weird at all 
No matter what gender you are, you can play otome games.
Everyone should be free to enjoy the things they like
No matter what gender you are, you can play otome games.
Everyone should be free to enjoy the things they like
- Oct 9, 2022
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I don't think there's anything wrong with men playing otome games. It doesn't cause any trouble for anyone if a man plays a otome game, after all.
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I think it's totally fine ! Even if otome games literally means maiden games it doesn't mean that men are forbidden from playing this genre of games, i personally have a guy friend who plays ALOT of otome games just because they love the characters and the story told to us. And i dont think we should restrict anyone from playing a certain genre just because of their genre/sex i mean, it's like saying that shojo mangas r only for girls…the more ppl get into this genre the more the business behind it will develop themselves and accord more attention and budget to it !!
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I don't think it matters whether a guy plays otome games or a girl plays eroge. Everyone has their own preferences, and there's no need to judge people based on their gender. Honestly, I'd be happy if I met a male friend who plays otome games—we could share different perspectives! I think that would be really interesting~
Unfortunately, I don't know anyone around me who plays otome games...
My only fellow fans are you guys in AS <3
Unfortunately, I don't know anyone around me who plays otome games...
My only fellow fans are you guys in AS <3
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I have no problem with that. I think everyone should play what they like, regardless of whether it's aimed at men or women. If the story and characters are good, that's what really matters. In my case, I even enjoy BL games and stories, so I've never thought that tastes should be limited by genre.
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I heard some guys also play BL..so yea I don't really care if they play otome or BL games.
There are some girls who also play games that were developed for men too.
There are some girls who also play games that were developed for men too.
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I don't mind guys playing otome games at all.
But if it's just to get attention from women — like, "Hey! I'm a guy and I play otome games!" — or to feel some kind of niche superiority, then please stay away from me.
Anyone can enjoy any game — that's a basic right. Respect goes both ways. If a guy is only playing otome games for a sense of superiority or to show how "different" he is, then he should just leave.
I also don't like hearing guys put down otome games. Sorry if I sound harsh, but this is a safe space for a lot of us, and we all want to protect it.
As a hobby, games are for everyone, regardless of gender. But if guys are in the otome space, I'd rather they not constantly draw attention to their gender. Just share your thoughts like any other fan. Play quietly. As long as they truly enjoy it, that's all that matters.
But if it's just to get attention from women — like, "Hey! I'm a guy and I play otome games!" — or to feel some kind of niche superiority, then please stay away from me.
Anyone can enjoy any game — that's a basic right. Respect goes both ways. If a guy is only playing otome games for a sense of superiority or to show how "different" he is, then he should just leave.
I also don't like hearing guys put down otome games. Sorry if I sound harsh, but this is a safe space for a lot of us, and we all want to protect it.
As a hobby, games are for everyone, regardless of gender. But if guys are in the otome space, I'd rather they not constantly draw attention to their gender. Just share your thoughts like any other fan. Play quietly. As long as they truly enjoy it, that's all that matters.
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I actually don't really mind—as long as it's not made public
playing it privately wouldn't draw any comments from others. But shoving it in people's faces isn't really appropriate, since otome games are, after all, categorized as women-oriented.
Besides, when chatting with netizens in real life, you wouldn't specifically ask about their gender, would you?
I also play male-oriented games myself, but I wouldn't go out of my way to bring that up either.
But there are always a few people who go out of their way to provoke or mock others—they're clearly not genuine players.
playing it privately wouldn't draw any comments from others. But shoving it in people's faces isn't really appropriate, since otome games are, after all, categorized as women-oriented.
Besides, when chatting with netizens in real life, you wouldn't specifically ask about their gender, would you?
I also play male-oriented games myself, but I wouldn't go out of my way to bring that up either.
But there are always a few people who go out of their way to provoke or mock others—they're clearly not genuine players.
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I don't really mind tbh, everyone is entitled to play whatever they want, regardless of genders 
If a man thinks playing otome games is fun, good for them good for them
If a man thinks playing otome games is fun, good for them good for them
moçoroca de abacate
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I think the idea that something is strictly for women or strictly for men is really lame and stupid. I have absolutely no problem with it—in fact, I think it's cool because it could make the genre more popular, and then I'd have more people to talk about it with, haha.
Of course, I don't mind if a man plays provided he's respectful; but if he plays just to mock or make fun of women's tastes, I find that truly awful, and I think he should stay away from otome games! After all, not every man is going to respect something aimed at a female audience, so if the intention is to be disrespectful and mock it, it's better not to play and just stay away.
Of course, I don't mind if a man plays provided he's respectful; but if he plays just to mock or make fun of women's tastes, I find that truly awful, and I think he should stay away from otome games! After all, not every man is going to respect something aimed at a female audience, so if the intention is to be disrespectful and mock it, it's better not to play and just stay away.
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I would never yuck someone's yum especially when I take big bites out of sooo many things out there myself and life is so much more enjoyable because of it. Limiting yourself to what's expected of you socially or in terms of intended target audience will have you missing out on some potential life altering discoveries, so!
If people are actually getting into otome or BL for not so positive reasons I think that's unintentionally hilarious though. Like oh, you're out there engaging in something with a 20+ hour average effort investment for... jokes? Or for some kind of gotcha? Maybe you're having more fun than you'd like to admit, at that point.
If people are actually getting into otome or BL for not so positive reasons I think that's unintentionally hilarious though. Like oh, you're out there engaging in something with a 20+ hour average effort investment for... jokes? Or for some kind of gotcha? Maybe you're having more fun than you'd like to admit, at that point.
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ruuuiii
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People who can enjoy/experiment with something that's not catered to them and might even get negative reactions from others for it are brave and open-minded in my opinion- i love to see it, would encourage it even!!
I don't agree with changing the genre though, there's a reason genres exist for people who are looking for a specific thing.
I don't agree with changing the genre though, there's a reason genres exist for people who are looking for a specific thing.
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Personally, I think it's absolutely more than okay for guys to play them! In fact, I actually love watching male YouTubers stream otome games. Their perspectives are often incredibly refreshing and completely different from female players, which makes the gameplay so much more entertaining.
It's hilarious and fascinating to see how they react to the romance tropes, how they judge the love interests from a guy's point of view, or how they genuinely get invested in a good storyline. I think games should be enjoyed by everyone, and having male players only makes the community more vibrant and fun!
It's hilarious and fascinating to see how they react to the romance tropes, how they judge the love interests from a guy's point of view, or how they genuinely get invested in a good storyline. I think games should be enjoyed by everyone, and having male players only makes the community more vibrant and fun!
wenmian
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我觉得男生完全可以玩乙女游戏。只要你能放下偏见，欣赏创作者想要表达的东西，而不是纠结于贬低或贬低女性的想法。我自己玩过男性导向的恋爱游戏，我相信一部真正伟大的作品不受其类型或目标受众的限制。一部能吸引不同口味、触及广泛观众的作品——这才是真正的卓越。
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Personally, I don't see a problem; I love recommending games to my friends. I find it kind of sad that visual novels in general aren't that popular. In my circle of friends, I don't have anyone who plays the genre much, but I always find it interesting to meet someone who likes to play Otome Games, regardless of the genre. They have great stories and it's fun to share experiences.
). Why can't guys do the same? Everyone should be able to play the games they like.
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Guys can absolutely play otome games! I don't have any issue with it. As long as they're just enjoying them as gamers, they're more than welcome. But if they play them and then start critiquing them from a male perspective, saying things like, "Women would never like someone like this," "This is so unrealistic," or "Women have such weird fantasies," that would be the worst.
B539
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I think everyone should be free to play whatever they want. If it makes them happy, who cares? I've never been a fan of this gatekeeping mentality. It's not hard to let other people enjoy things they like in peace.
In fact, there's several men I know irl who should play at least one good otome game. Maybe that would help them understand why they're single lol
In fact, there's several men I know irl who should play at least one good otome game. Maybe that would help them understand why they're single lol
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I have no prejudice at all. In fact, I think guys who genuinely love and play otome games are pretty cute!
Gaming is all about bringing joy. As long as you enjoy the story, art, or music, the game has fulfilled its value. It's totally normal for guys to be drawn to good stories and beautiful characters.
However, the premise is that they must sincerely love the work, not play it just to mock it or treat it as a joke. Using others' emotional investment as a meme to entertain the public is super disrespectful.
Ultimately, passion knows no gender. As long as we respect the game and each other, wanting to experience that heart-fluttering feeling is a wonderful thing for anyone!
Gaming is all about bringing joy. As long as you enjoy the story, art, or music, the game has fulfilled its value. It's totally normal for guys to be drawn to good stories and beautiful characters.
However, the premise is that they must sincerely love the work, not play it just to mock it or treat it as a joke. Using others' emotional investment as a meme to entertain the public is super disrespectful.
Ultimately, passion knows no gender. As long as we respect the game and each other, wanting to experience that heart-fluttering feeling is a wonderful thing for anyone!