Sex

[Yee199]

So many people think that Sex and Love tie together. I think Not (a little but not as gigantic as society thinks)!
Love is the feeling of wanting to care for the person and wanting to make them feel happy not to come in the room with a boner say "I looovvee you! lets do it cuz I loooovvvee youu!"

What is your opinion?

(Yeah you probably thought I was gonna write my fantasies here I bet.)

 

[musangbeku]

but if you love someone passionately, the urge to sex is appears. maybe it's right that love and sex are tie together, but it doesn't make that if you love someone means you have to get sex with her/him. moreover use such cliche words like "I love you" just to get laid, IMO it's really gross and not gentlemen

 

[Will98]

Doesn't apply to those Western people. It's all sex for money, no love...

But then again... as long as it was known to both parties the "love" was superficial.... no one is hurt.

 

[Leggy]

Based on my own culture, I get the impression that sex and love are seen by men and women differently.

Men tie love to having sex. Man, "Yeah, baby, I love you. Let's have sex."

Women tie sex to being in love. Woman, "He had sex with me, so he loves me."

The difference is subtle, but leads to many unhappy couples.

 

[Yee199]

Thats why people need to be educated on this topic.

 

[ProXpert]

I think all that sex does is make the couple fall in more deep love.. and in some cases unwanted guests.. Like pregnancy and so on... But in general sex is legit!

 

[Yee199]

Know the right time.
Sekai's little "sex practices" with Makoto turned his into a complete dickhead.

 

[KissSis]

The company KID which their Bishōjo games did not have H sence was bankrupt, although their games were very famous. So I suppose most people really like sex and love tie together.

 

[Legacy]

This is a HUGE topic to discuss, but I will try my best to condense it down.

You can love someone and not have sex.
You can have sex with someone and not love them.

Either situation is perfectly ok. Since people have sex for their own reasons. That should be stressed. Sex is a personal act between two people, its their decision that matters. If they want to have sex in a recreational matter, that should not trouble anyone else.

Anyway, for me sex is something that people do when they love each other. It doesn't make someone love someone, but it definitely shows and expresses love on a different level. I don't want to say that sex is the only way to express love, it certainly isn't, but it is certainly one way too.

TL;DR: Sex is great! People use it for different reasons, which doesn't make it bad or good. For me sex is an expression of love in addition to an act of passion, desire, necessity, etc.

 

[Mizu-chan]

Most relationships lead to sex. That is, most serious relationships. While I do believe that you can have a purely platonic relationship with someone you love, the chances are that eventually your hormones will catch up with you and you're gonna want to bone each other after a while. Unless your an asexual.

 

[Legacy]

Most relationships lead to sex. That is, most serious relationships. While I do believe that you can have a purely platonic relationship with someone you love, the chances are that eventually your hormones will catch up with you and you're gonna want to bone each other after a while. Unless your an asexual.

Which is perfectly normal. Our bodies are created with the desire to procreate.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm... there is something after sex which ties two people together? Some chemical in the brain which makes it seem like youre in "love" with whatever is around...

 

[Mizu-chan]

Lol, sex = love to many people. I guess we can't all determine the answer to this because it varies depending on the person. Like most things.

 

[DvorakUser]

This is quite interesting: I once heard that there actually is no such thing as love and that the only thing that makes people "fall in love" is pure sexual attraction. For a while the sexual attraction is enough to keep the relationship together, and during this time the love between the two people "grow". After that stage the sexual attraction kind of goes away, but the "love" that grew during the first part of the relationship keeps people together. Now this "love" is supposedly a combination of familiarity and the desire not to be alone. Apparently you unconscious calculate how advantageous it would be for you to leave the current safety and familiarity of the current relationship, and search for a new relationship. If, internally the safety and familiarity of the relationship is enough for you, you'll stay in that relationship.

Tl;dr: There is no such thing as love, only sexual attraction and then safety.

Source: Talks with friends on this topic

 

[Infamous]

the simplest way to put it is

you need sex for love to last, but you don't need love to have sex

 

[Yee199]

Well I've heard that love is the feeling where you care for that person, want to protect him/her, and make him/her happy.


I've seen guys fall for the ugliest of girls and end up married and happy.
If you be with a person for a long time, they eventually become beautiful to you.
Thats what I think.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm well being around someone who you might call ugly at first... you get desensitized after a while i suppose?

There was something about sex once a week to keep a healthy relationship?

 

[musangbeku]

I love sex

 

[Legacy]

This is quite interesting: I once heard that there actually is no such thing as love and that the only thing that makes people "fall in love" is pure sexual attraction. For a while the sexual attraction is enough to keep the relationship together, and during this time the love between the two people "grow". After that stage the sexual attraction kind of goes away, but the "love" that grew during the first part of the relationship keeps people together. Now this "love" is supposedly a combination of familiarity and the desire not to be alone. Apparently you unconscious calculate how advantageous it would be for you to leave the current safety and familiarity of the current relationship, and search for a new relationship. If, internally the safety and familiarity of the relationship is enough for you, you'll stay in that relationship.

Tl;dr: There is no such thing as love, only sexual attraction and then safety.

Source: Talks with friends on this topic

That's very interesting way of describing love, but no matter what love may truly be, it doesn't take away what makes is special. I cannot argue against your logic of love based on biological factors, but the concept of love, as society has deemed it, is still something special. It may be a set of biological factors that make us seek out companionship, but it is something that is to be desired.

 

[dark5]

love is the feeling to make both happy.
sex is real different things. its only the part of love.
like those in west, sex is for money and business.

 

[Infamous]

sex is for money everywhere in the world. here in the U.S. it's just somewhat legal (making porn allowed, prostitution not allowed.) sex is a little more casualized here though

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Hmm the american media is... quite horrible when it comes to portraying real situations with sex and stuff =.= All the movies and stuff are quite a large pile of bs but people believe them to be true and act in such a way...

 

[Legacy]

Hmm the american media is... quite horrible when it comes to portraying real situations with sex and stuff =.= All the movies and stuff are quite a large pile of bs but people believe them to be true and act in such a way...

I don't know if people believe it to be true, rather it is easier to go a long with the over sexualized and fantasized notion of sex sold in the media. Who wants to watch a movie about sex in its true form? That would be boring.

 

[Ghost Kitty~]

Well my life is nothing like the movies and i dont wish it to be like that... but i know that people like my sis who thrive on popularity take everything the movies say to heart and then find out that real high school is nothing like high school musical or glee club and just get disappointed... of course that does nothing to dampen her pursuit of popularity =.= My lifestyle is different and to me they just look like buffoons mindlessly doing whatever the media tells them...

 

[w33t]

but if you love someone passionately, the urge to sex is appears.

=] that should be a meme somehow.

There is a huge difference between sex and love. But sex is so intimate and powerful, it can bring you to love. I feel like there's a lot of people who have sex with someone for the first time and it gives them that euphoric feeling that they interpret as love.

This is why you should only sleep with people you love. It's a very emotional thing.