- Dec 8, 2022
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omg yes, this aspect of rei's route really soured me because they wanted to break the stereotype of how gay men are feminine, only to reaffirm gender stereotypes like violence is for MEN, if you have long hair or like sweets, that's a GIRL thing. i hate how its one extreme to the other without any nuance, especially since beforehand there wasn't any build up because rei geniunely seemed happy with who he was, a couple of scenes showing that, actually, rei is forcing a facade, wouldve atleast set it up. as it is, his route set up an interesting exploration of gender identity, only to basically conform to societal standards on what makes a man a man.Rei from Slow Damage didn't meet my expectations at all, to put it lightly. I expected the exact opposite of what I got, especially since I liked him much more before he "changed" to become who he supposedly is in his good ending. He had so much potential, but he ended up being so tropey that I felt deeply disappointed in both his route and his character. Maybe it was my fault for not seeing it coming, but whatever.
SPOILERS OF HIS WHOLE ROUTE: Rei was such a sweet and caring person at the beginning, always there for Towa and having openly queer friends whom he stood up for. That remains the same, but the main plot of his arc involves him being pushed into femininity because he's gay, under the logic that it's "more accepted." Consequently, he feels he has to hide his "masculinity," which is represented by a craving for violence in an illegal fighting ring. I found this part of his story tropey and unrealistic, perhaps due to my perspective as a Western LGBT+ person.
RANT RELATED TO SPOILERS: I don't know why Japanese media tends to portray feminine gay men as being more accepted by their families and friends than masculine gay men. I'm not a gay Japanese man, but is that really a "thing"? From a Western POV, it's often the opposite; feminine gay men frequently face discrimination even within the LGBT+ community. However, Japanese media often makes it look like femininity is the "acceptable" way to be gay. Given the existence of the Bara genre, which celebrates muscular, "bear," and hyper-masculine men, and the fact that many masculine Japanese gay men look down on BL for its overly effeminate character designs, this trope feels completely detached from reality. The idea that femininity makes a gay man more "acceptable" creates a sense of cognitive dissonance for me, especially since the rejection of feminine traits and hobbies is so widespread globally. I am open to being proven wrong if this is a specific cultural nuance I'm missing. I realize that "soft masculinity" is more mainstream in Japanese pop culture (seen in Johnny's idols or bishonen characters), but I haven't seen any evidence that this translates into a smoother lived experience for actual gay men in Japan. If anyone has deeper insight into this cultural divide, I'd love to hear it.
rei can like sweets and have long hair while ALSO love fighting and bloodshed. i hate how the ending makes it feel like these are mutually exclusive. i love rei so so much, which is why his route kinda flopping hurts so much
Not to mention he was so cold to MC despite her pursuing him and confessing to him the entire time..but if Tsuyukusa tried to get close to MC he would block it. He was such a douche.