honestly? yeah. back when i was younger, the absolute worst red flags looked like a fun challenge. the yanderes, the toxic ore-samas, the guys who literally needed professional help—i was always like "i can fix him" or just loved the sheer drama of it.
but growing up completely flips your perspective. now? give me the ultimate green flags. i just want someone who is nice, communicates like a normal human, and doesn't make me anxious. the sweet, supportive golden retriever types or the reliable kuuderes hit way different when you actually have real-life stress to deal with.
toxicity is just exhausting now. having a love interest who actually respects you and treats you well is so much hotter than someone locking you in a room or yelling at you.