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  • ~SnowAngel~
    I can tell you two things~ first, if both of you really want to be together, a miracle will happen for that :3 (just say what she means to you, don't exactly have to say you love her that way.) Thenn it would help to know what you mean to her and all. If she has a bf, it doesn't mean you're completely hopeless. Some girls like to think that if a guy doesn't take a step, they'll move on. But they'd still be willing if the guy took that step. Even if a girl has a bf, it doesn't mean they'll be together forever. Sometimes they hope the guy they really like will take a chance with them :3
    I wouldn't try lying to yourself about your feelings, you'll feel much better being rejected than that. (I did and was rejected, but was happy XD)
    If you want to try, ask her if you could exchange pictures of yourself. Even if a girl rejects a guy, it's not like you'd stop being friends. Trust me, I've had someone I was dying over for 2 years xD sooo I know what it's like~ especially when that person likes someone else. fyi, we're better friends now then back then :3
    ~SnowAngel~
    wow so you love someone you haven't met? x-x are you too far away to meet?
    Describe what she is like, is she positive and caring? There could be something about her that you're especially attracted to, but it can be a dangerous thing to be too clingy. I knew someone who had to deal with lots of guys like that. She said they were all nice, but were like trying to find a meaning of life through her x-x (which I've been there too~ lol). Now it almost like she's afraid to rely on people because she doesn't want to be hurt again. It's a strange thing, girls want a guy to be theirs, but not like want to be their only reason to live. it's hard to explain.. It almost feels like I'd be used if there was a person that was desperate for help from me specifically. But at the same time, I really want to be that person in their life who matters the most to them :3 One of the most unassuring things is a guy who seems stuck in a sad way, and holds onto that like someone will fix it for him. I mean, it feels like I'd have to babysit his emotions 24/7 and he won't try to be happy with me :/
    ~SnowAngel~
    You remind me of a certain friend I had~ he was always up in his head about reason/logic or being rational. I could see that he was really fighting his own emotions, and that eventually led him to being depressed. I think it was because there were some things he couldn't figure out about himself, especially with the girl he liked. He didn't want to cry in front of me (ended up doing that anyway, since i cried for him XD). Somehow I got him to talk, and he learned that things aren't always explained with reasons. (gave him some of my examples :P)
    I even went on to say that some ppl like to justify their emotional response with the excuse of being logical. (a man told me that, and it's so true XD) I find that it's best to go between thinking and feeling~ if you ignore one, the other will suffer. Guys have emotions too, and sometimes thinking alone won't help them. I can accept what I don't understand without feeling afraid, you can too :3
    ~SnowAngel~
    I don't mean talking in general, I mean talking about what matters to you. Even if you aren't the kind of person that feels better by talking (like me lol) thennn I know I can help in other ways if you let me :3
    I know what it's like to be sad for so long~ I've dealt with it in many ways, either figuring out the questions or accepting something. Even if I can't completely fix what bothers you, I can promise you'll be much different and more about to deal with it.
    ~SnowAngel~
    Again, don't give yourself the excuse of being shy~ that's what I did plenty of times x-x Some girls may think that if a guy doesn't have the guts to confess, they probably don't truly like you. Anyways, I'm completely approaching this semester differently than the last few. I feel like I've just about completely broken all my shyness. Whether through prayer or changing the way I think, idk. It was what I wanted to become more like soo yep. I'd say to either make the decision to change, or be comfortable with yourself. (i did both :3) Soo I've been talking to some people about doing that, I could maybe help if you're interested. It's not about being an extrovert, it's about being who you want to be :3
    ~SnowAngel~
    Some girls will tell the guy they like "oh, I'm going out with so n so" to see if the guy would try harder to go after her. really, girls want to be romantically pursued. They want to see guys make the effort to knowing them or spending time with them. It's okay if you get really embarrassed if you tell her you like her (it's very attractive XD). I've talked lots with someone over the phone at night, and that's how we fell for each other~
    Girls that like talking to you about everything could be interested in the person, but they might be even more afraid than you. Of course, they won't say everything because it might break their heart :/ Even with someone I didn't know well, we still stayed friends. (they might even change their mind sometime, since some girls love to figure out if it's real.)
    ~SnowAngel~
    (p2)

    hmm I wonder if you really want to do art? My mom started collage with art, and then decided to do biology. She didn't like that, soo I think she did nursing to settle with. I was about the same way XD thought I might want to be some kind of general doctor, but didn't want to go through all that mess. Soo I found out what counselors could do, and now I'm faced with so many things to pick from x-x I've narrowed it down some, but still need to talk about how to get there and all.

    Is your classes very large? Mine are about 15-30 students per class. But even then I've had some classes where I didn't talk to anyone :/
    My psychology classes have some group activities soo I made a few friends that way :3 I've spent some time without outside class before too~
    I think it's just the willingness to try something different. I mean, school isn't strictly for learning, we live in a social world too. I know I can be sincere about what I'm talking about to that person~ lol that reminds me, there was this one guy I somehow got into a conversation about the environment and different big topics? XD never talked to him before, but we just chatted like we've always known each other.
    Even some of the scary looking people weren't so bad. There's this one kinda shy girl in 2 of my classes, she seems to have a similar issue that I did, soo maybe I'd be a friend to her :3
    ~SnowAngel~
    I used to be that way alot~ thought this one person kept staring at me during church, and thought they liked me XD I had a crush on them for 2 years, painfully watching them be interested in other people. I believed that person was for me and everything (I was 13 lol). I tried hard getting to know them and stuff, but even though we got closer, it still didn't work in the end. Funny thing was, when I was just honest with myself to that person, I was happy they said no. (was more like they were waiting for God to guide them for the right person). Sooo I took some time away from that to get over them, and it was like I was free from something? We later became pretty good friends. Not too special, but definitely better than way back then :3

    I found that my shyness was linked to either deep rejection or fear of emotional pain. (both in early childhood throughout highschool?). Of course I wasn't antisocial all the time, I was a different person around my best friend lol. Anyways, I found that I had too high of a standard for good friendships. I wanted a level of closeness or something, but didn't feel that unless they also shared the same connection. (Soo we both had to share about ourselves). I also limited them to people who had similar interests (or didn't like something i didn't lol). All of these things like that that somehow I just decided without deciding. (like.. doing something without thinking?). I know I don't have all the questions figured out yet, or the answers to most of them. I do know what I wanted to become like. soo rather than being upset for not having x,y,z or being some way, I just took one thing at a time and settled it. umm the first I did was optimism (just thinking more positively). I've caught myself in the middle of a negative thought and turned it into a realisticly good one. sooo different things like that was the start.
    ~SnowAngel~
    I've not been stable emotionally before, for different things I never thought about (which it was strange how it connected?). There's also the random episode I get maybe once a month average XD I really haven't been able to spend any time with my best friends since november. (then I got sick -.-~) but I guess there were different things I did for a change that really made a difference (not just help :3).
    hmm one was stepping outside of the idea of me being shy (got that idea from counseling), sooo now I just talk with people without thinking about it. The things I used to feel about talking to new people just disappeared~ thoo I guess some reflection from last year helped with that. Another counselor took me through childhood and asked me what I think about __. so she didn't say much, she mostly got me to do lots by myself XD.
    I would definitely like to be more social here, but it just doesn't feel as real anymore :/ I'm emailing one person about dealing with different things and they love it~ I think it's a little better than just putting things here. People eventually forget and move on, not that they give up, more like the relationships here aren't tied unless you make them real. (such as my email example? lol)
    I've gained what I could from here, but pretty soon A-S would be taking things away from me. (or it would be myself really~). I mean, I would have only once chance to do some things I probably will never get to do next year. (more dances, new friends, free time things, etc). Once my school life is over, I can't go back sooo I'm going to make myself do the things I wished I could do XD.
    ummm if you're okay with talking more, you could pm more about what's bothering you? I can probably relate, or even share some of my confidence for you to make your own :3
    ~SnowAngel~
    I recommend doing more hobbies or something to benefit your future~ I mean, it seems like you spend all of your free time here, it makes me worried :/ is having 100% activity important to you somehow? I'm definitely going to make ends meet with school. Last semester wasn't so great since I put too much time here. I also have lots to plan ahead for (school and real life things).
    My brother would tell me that not having something to do is a bad excuse for doing other things all the time. (games, movies, etc) Even my mom would take away things and tell us to do something productive. (cleaning, reading, being outside). Once I got into college, I found there's still lots I don't know yet >< (planning meals for the family, washing certain things in laundry, basic car things XD) sooo of all the time I've spent doing other stuff, I wish I put some of it toward learning those things. My mom was usually busy with something. (Work, siblings, cleaning, etc). Of course we know when to rest during the day, but things like this shouldn't be overlooked~ I mean, are there still things you want to do, but haven't gotten around to them yet?
    musangbeku
    yeah :sigh: . you enter the url in page background, right? I really clueless where I get wrong x_x
    musangbeku
    hmm okay. anw what did you use for your background? I mean the file hosting site, is it photobucket? or anything else?
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