Control is bursting, and PUA's paranoia is criticized in the name of love.
It's not that kind of fragile and affectionate madness with a bottom line, but that you regard the hostess as your possessions, restrict social interaction, make decisions for the hostess without authorization, keep under house arrest and monitor at every turn, and morally kidnap "You can only rely on me, and you can't live without me".
This kind of role confuses possession and love, and packages self-obsession as deep love. Contradictions are always solved by imprisonment and pressure, and it is difficult to be sweet, only to feel suffocated.