- Jun 21, 2026
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Nop! Playing otome games for me is like reading a book: I just watch and observe everything as if I were a background character or a camera that is recording/capturing everything

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I think you've summed up my opinion lol. Heavily agree with 'I'd just grab a romance book'. I use these games for escapism, so I like to self-insert or create my own characters to be in that world.I do all the time. That's the whole point of an otome for me personally. Like why would I spend hours of my life watching the guys I like loving another woman? lol couldn't be me, I'm not built to be a wall/third person pov player. If I wanted to be a passive observer I'd just grab literally any romance book or read shojo manga.







I find it quite rare or never for me to self insert while playing otomegame.I view the MC as the avatar through whom I experience the story. The same as I would when playing an RPG. I know the character on the screen is not me; I don't try to pretend it is. But I do try to slip into that character's skin and experience the emotions of story from that perspective. Self-insert in a way that leaves "me" behind and becomes the character, rather than imposing "me" onto a character that is clearly not me.
I feel like I'm doing self-insert with this process, but I also feel like that's not what literally anyone means when they use those words, so... I guess I don't?