Ever since I started playing otome games, I've found myself increasingly yearning for and admiring the pure, unwavering affection the LIs have for the heroines. It feels like my standards for my own relationships have gotten higher. Additionally, because there are some absolute favorite LIs I adore, I really want to be able to draw them and create fan art. I've actually been self-studying drawing for a while now.
What changes have otome games brought to you or your life?
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Limbo
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- Mar 16, 2025
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You know, video games are like comfort food for my soul. Real life's just so boring—same old routine, day after day. I keep finding myself longing for the world inside games. The characters have so much personality, and honestly... that feeling of falling in love in a virtual world? It hits different.
- Nov 10, 2025
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it brought fun into my life during bad times 
i don't know what my fun would be without otome/amare games
i don't know what my fun would be without otome/amare games 
Dhshdy
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- Jan 31, 2026
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i feel like its become my escape from realityyy
- Oct 27, 2019
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I learned two foreign languages with otome and bl games and it helped me to get my degree 
- Jan 12, 2026
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Yes, I think playing otome games has improved my Japanese listening a bit, haha.I learned two foreign languages with otome and bl games and it helped me to get my degree
- Apr 8, 2026
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They've changed my life by making me open my wallet to buy physical copies, merch, cds, etc
- Aug 20, 2011
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def changing lots of my financial decision haha 
other than that, def spoiled me with such beautiful art such as Kazuki Yone-sama, Kageroo-sama, etc etc they def made me slightly bit picky in choosing my art..
it made me interested in plot/story branch too, since I'm usually reading manga / watchin anime with 1 plot (no branch), so I do be readin fanfic and other moshimono type of story <3
other than that, def spoiled me with such beautiful art such as Kazuki Yone-sama, Kageroo-sama, etc etc they def made me slightly bit picky in choosing my art..
it made me interested in plot/story branch too, since I'm usually reading manga / watchin anime with 1 plot (no branch), so I do be readin fanfic and other moshimono type of story <3
- Dec 21, 2015
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It adds an option of entertainment for me to consume! Also drained time and money :x
- Sep 30, 2020
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New communities and new spending habits. I have to save money to get the otome (and BL) games I'm interested in in addition to other things. I used to buy physical manga volumes and they took up a lot of space in my room, nowadays I prefer digital games.
I also encountered some people who like otome in my area and we chat sometimes, the relationship never went further than "random people with the same hobby" though haha it's fine
Otome games made me realize I love games where I get to make choices and decide the ending too. The genre in fact opened the door for me to the broader world of visual novels, and story-rich games like Life is Strange or I Was a Teenage Exocolonist!
I also encountered some people who like otome in my area and we chat sometimes, the relationship never went further than "random people with the same hobby" though haha it's fine
Otome games made me realize I love games where I get to make choices and decide the ending too. The genre in fact opened the door for me to the broader world of visual novels, and story-rich games like Life is Strange or I Was a Teenage Exocolonist!
- Jan 28, 2026
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Otome games have become my go-to choice for killing time most of the time. I can experience different lives within these stories, which, in a sense, enriches my inner world, even though my wallet has become emptier.
- May 20, 2025
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they can definitely be a nice escape when things get heavy and tend to be my go-to way to spend my free time when i'm not with friends. they definitely drain my wallet though lol
- Apr 8, 2025
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They are mostly just an escape for me or something interesting to read but I do now stupidly say things in my head when someone's talking like "approval point up" as a joke
- Mar 17, 2017
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For me it's a lighter alternative of books, so it brought a new way of comfort. With voices))
- Jul 16, 2021
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I don't mean to sound like someone who brings doom when it comes to talking about romance in real life, but I feel like it fills that expectation I like(?) Like I know having someone who takes care after you, really cares for your feelings and is emotionally intelligent WHILE also taking care of themselves is can be really difficult to find irl. And witnessing and even going through my own love life has taught me that sadly the bar is literally in hell lol. It is just very rare to find someone I want. I'm a uni graduate who takes care of my image and going after a good paying job, I expect my partner to be the same as me if not even greater (I like to be spoiled ehehe). If they don't meet that then I don't want it, and it's not a big ask. I see so many people settling and going lower because they don't want to feel alone/want to feel being loved. For me, otome games do fill in that lovey-dovey thing. And luckily it fills it out without having the actual issues on a real relationship. Because right now I am the only mentally unstable person I can handle LOL.
But with all that said, I do believe in finding a good partner but it can be hard and I could potentially not even meet him in my life, But that's okay! I am content in my life and if I can't find Mr. Right, I had my little otome games for it. But I will say with this being said, I do not think Otomes should be a replacement of ACTUALLY finding love. Nor to I approve of it, I believe everyone can find someone out there, it just can be difficult.
But with all that said, I do believe in finding a good partner but it can be hard and I could potentially not even meet him in my life, But that's okay! I am content in my life and if I can't find Mr. Right, I had my little otome games for it. But I will say with this being said, I do not think Otomes should be a replacement of ACTUALLY finding love. Nor to I approve of it, I believe everyone can find someone out there, it just can be difficult.
- Aug 4, 2020
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Cupipara Ryuki sold me on the benefits of natto so I have it every morning now, for like the past 3-4 years. The smell, taste, and texture really isn't as bad as people make it out to be
- Sep 26, 2025
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Well I'm learning japanese thanks to otome games lol. Also it fulfills the part of me that wants romance and a boyfriend!! Then once I quit the game I go back to my very calm life without an extra person I tbh don't know what I'd do with. Also the games have made me realize my irl bar is pretty low all things considered like, I *swooned* over Dante apologizing and directly saying "I love you" twice so we don't misunderstand him. Immediately after that I went ???? at myself because how come some of the most mundane interactions in this dramatic game had me squealing like a schoolgirl HAHA I've reflected a lot on myself thanks to otoge in general fr.
- Oct 25, 2025
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I have known and tried otomes since a lot of time ago but i only started to get really into playing them a few years ago and so since i really like to selfinsert, taking on this "role" of the mc has helped me open up the more feminine side on me, otomes motivated me to start putting more effort into my habits and appearance, like i started to exercise and learn to do my makeup, and also now i feel more comfortable using more pretty and feminine clothes
- Oct 18, 2024
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In the world of otome games, many exciting things happen, but that's not the case in the real world. (Although it would be troublesome if that actually happened in reality ) I've come to feel a wider range of emotions, such as excitement, anticipation, sadness, and happiness.
) I've come to feel a wider range of emotions, such as excitement, anticipation, sadness, and happiness.
- May 1, 2025
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It helps me disconnect from reality and not think about real life for a while.
- Oct 4, 2024
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I used to only like happy endings, but now I've come to enjoy bad endings too.
- May 19, 2025
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Playing Otome games has made me realize that loving oneself is the most important thing, and I often find joy in them. I think I will enjoy playing Otome games for the rest of my life！！！
- Apr 5, 2020
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A lot, actually. I've played them since I was a teenager and now I'm a whole adult with a job, ahaha. They supported me, encouraged me, made me pursue fanfiction and art. They still are my main passion and make my life kind of easier.